Say it All Together Now: Yes WE CAN!

It was pointed out to me yesterday, that sometimes I do my very best to keep myself miserable, always looking for the next thing that is going to suck, or be hard, or make me unhappy.  This revelation was brought to us by Dr. Love and the letter “G.”

Ok, so maybe it’s not a revelation, exactly.  This is something I have known about myself since the beginning of time.  It’s been brought to my attention by many therapists, psychiatrists, family members, co-workers, so on and so forth.  It’s something that I work on at times, and at other times, something I blatantly ignore and wallow anyway.

It’s a difficult trap to be in, to have been this way for so long, to change such an ingrained behavior.  The perfect example is my constant dread of winter.

Winter generally means hard times for me.  And I dread it year-round.  In the middle of the summer, I am anticipating the down-times of winter.  The lack of sun, the cold, the snow and ice.  There is a seasonal component to it that I tend to exacerbate by obsessing year-round about all of the winters past where I have despaired.

QoB has pointed out that this can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.  I anticipate the worst, I get the worst.  If I could just change my thinking, maybe it would be better and I could just be pleasantly surprised.  I suppose there is some validity to this, but it’s still hard to expect something different when I’ve always come up with the same thing.

What’s the saying?  Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result.  Something like that.  Color me insane then, because I practice that time and time over — expecting something different from the same patterns of behavior.

Something to work on, I suppose.  I am starting to go back to therapy more frequently.  There are a lot of things to focus on, little day-to-day things and some bigger things.  To face it, though, there are a lot of big things that are caused by and are causing the little day-to-day glitches.

Lily Allen, The Littlest Things

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3 thoughts on “Say it All Together Now: Yes WE CAN!

  1. Lyrics, Lily Allen, The Littlest Thing

    Sometimes I find myself sittin’ back and reminiscing
    Especially when I have to watch other people kissin’
    And I remember when you started callin’ me your miss’s
    All the play fightin’, all the flirtatious disses
    I’d tell you sad stories about my childhood
    I don’t why I trusted you but I knew that I could
    We’d spend the whole weekend lying in our own dirt
    I was just so happy in your boxers and your t-shirt

    [Chorus]
    Dreams, Dreams
    Of when we had just started things
    Dreams of you and me
    It seems, It seems
    That I can’t shake those memories
    I wonder if you have the same dreams too.

    The littlest things that take me there
    I know it sounds lame but its so true
    I know its not right, but it seems unfair
    That the things are reminding me of you
    Sometimes I wish we could just pretend
    Even if only for one weekend
    So come on, Tell me
    Is this the end?

    Drinkin’ tea in bed
    Watching DVD’s
    When I discovered all your dirty grotty magazines
    You take me out shopping and all we’d buy is trainers
    As if we ever needed anything to entertain us
    the first time that you introduced me to your friends
    and you could tell I was nervous, so you held my hand
    when I was feeling down, you made that face you do
    There’s no one in the world that could replace you

    [Chorus]
    Dreams, Dreams
    Of when we had just started things
    Dreams of me and you
    It seems, It seems
    That I can’t shake those memories
    I wonder if you feel the same way too

    The littlest things that take me there
    I know it sounds lame but its so true
    I know its not right, but it seems unfair
    That the things reminding me of you
    Sometimes I wish we could just pretend
    Even if only for one weekend
    So come on, Tell me
    Is this the end?

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  2. Dr Love is sometimes highly underrated. But at least he knows that. 😀

    A demotivational poster…

    Achievement…

    You can do anything you set your mind to when you have vision, determination, and an endless supply of expendable labor.

    Let’s now consider that endless supply of expendable labor may just be us… we’ve met the enemy, and we are it.

    Good to “see” ya. Can’t hurt… might help. Walk the damned dog… you KNOW she wants it.

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