Thanks to Mom (oh glorious QoB!), my house was almost fully deep-cleaned yesterday. Every bit of dog hair and dust and clutter was decimated and really, it’s looking pretty good. I just finished mopping my dining room and kitchen, and it looks like they will need another round, but, most of the way there.
I have therapy today, and it’s kind of like cleaning house. I feel like I’m “most of the way” there, but am missing certain key pieces that keep me from living up to my full happiness potential. The big stuff has been knocked out of the way for now, you know, the dead weight of depression and the lunacy of mania. They’re gone, probably not forever, but at least for now.
Now, I’m really needing to go through my proverbial house and get rid of some clutter. I need to work on trauma issues and negativity and poor self-concept. I need to stop eating at night and stop bingeing during the day. I need to be a more devout shower-er and housework keeper-upper. Can you really get all that out of therapy?
I’m not really sure. I think that if some of my basic issues were addressed and dealt with, those things would be a lot easier. I think a lot of my problems have to do with a lack of self-compassion, black-and-white thinking, and a constant inability to reassure myself that, by golly, it’s gonna be ok!
I have had times in my life where food was not a huge issue for me, where I had things in check and was eating right. There was even a time that McDonald’s and Ben and Jerry’s and Oreos grossed me out. I could taste the fat on my tongue. Blech. Sure do wish I could get back THERE again. Ok, maybe not that far over, but not like it is now where I find myself hoovering triple portions of deliciously carb-laden, fat-riddled food into my mouth.
I have always had the problem with taking showers regularly. I can remember being in college in the dorms and waiting until no one was around so I could wash my hair in the communal bathroom sink, so that everyone would think I had showered. I still employ that trick, quite regularly, to this day. This is a tricky one. It stems both from trauma and not wanting to feel all that disgusting fatness with my hands.
I detest housework, mostly because it takes stamina that I don’t have to do it. It’s that and it’s also letting it pile up around me and letting it become an unmanageable issue. I would like to hope that, now that my house is clean, I keep it up better. We shall see.
I notice that the underlying themes of some of my most irritating problems stem from being overweight, or relating to food. At one point in time, I fit criteria for Bulimia, but at this point I think I fit criteria for Binge Eating Disorder. Such a nasty, nasty thing. Shameful! And people don’t talk about it. It’s almost as stigmatizing as Bipolar Disorder. People who don’t have the problem, just.don’t.get.it.
I’m so glad I was able to process all of that to an audience today. Haha! I think I need to bring this up with my therapist today and see if I can get some tactical responses ready to go when the urge hits.
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Thanks again for your kind words on my post. I appreciate your writing, too. Authentic and sharp. Great stuff. Peace (and healing for us both, huh?), John