You know what they say about good intentions, right, friend? How they done paved dat dere road to Hell. Well, you know, I think sometimes maybe that fits and works, but sometimes it is our good intentions that hold us together like a favorite, old, comfortable, unraveling sweater.
It is only through good intentions that the Rosa I love best is here, today. The Rosa that I enjoy the most, who laughs and makes jokes and tries to comfort those around her holds hands and has a kind word. The Rosa that is there for people, struggling to get out of herself.
The Rosa that decides to try a brand-new recipe on a whim with no fear, the Rosa that hobbles to the damn pool and practices weightless exercises until time stands still and the chlorine lingers in the nostrils for hours. Who talks to strangers, smiles at small children, hugs fiercely. Who cries herself awake and then turns to precious LarBear for comfort, knowing it will always be given.
Is passionate about more than how long it is possible to stay in bed, completely immobile. That girl that does things and has a good time doing them and fights back when the darkness starts circling come around nightfall every evening.
She is my favorite, and she might be your favorite, too — its easy to love the one who battles and battles and fights back some more, even when it seems like all those neurochemicals zipping around upstairs are dead-set against any happiness today. Its worth acknowledging that it isn’t easy being this version, no matter how lovable. Because it’s a constant up-and-down, and while there is more “up” than “down,” the downs are quite low.
So there are a lot of tears and a lot of gasping sobs and big empty and vast fields of grey fog, covering the blackness of night. But instead of giving in, which, really, is what the urge is every day — there is always, always forward movement.
More activities, more people, more places to go and see and things to do. Build structure, build mastery, practice living in the moment. This moment won’t come again, precious steps must be taken to pay attention, to not avoid or ignore it into oblivion.