Here recently, I have done a lot of reading of other blogs. I’ve read some beautiful, horrible, raw, fascinating, plagiarized, well-written, and under-developed posts. Underneath all of that, however, there is always a story that is being told. It isn’t up to me to judge, but I can choose to “like” the post. I can choose to comment. I can choose to follow that blogger. With two weeks worth of nothing-ness at work, I have followed a lot of new bloggers. And by new, I don’t necessarily mean new, just new-to-me. My goal for this period in which I have a great deal of time to read and ponder, was to comment whenever I could.
Now lemme tell ya, there are many bloggers that I have been following, some for months, some longer, that I absolutely love but never comment on. It may sound silly, but when I type out a comment, I look at it and think that it’s: a) poorly written, b) not witty enough to keep up with the rest of the commenters or the person who posted, c) just plain dumb. So, many times, I don’t comment. Well in these past two weeks, I have been a commenting fool. I have said what is in my heart, what a particular post makes me feel, a thank-you to the author, trying for originality, and, watch out world, Rosa is commenting. Fiercely.
I’m hoping that by commenting, I will work my way back into posting more regularly. I have always written for myself, but there is still a piece of me that says, “Good gawd, Rosa! That’s a piece of crappy drivel…you can’t publish that!” Because I don’t want to embarrass myself, you know. I know I’m far from being a great writer, but I’m not a terrible one, either. I read these fascinating, well-written posts by talented, but seemingly-human bloggers, who appear to be able to churn out one hand-clapping-worthy post a day, and then I look at the draft I am writing, and I vow not to publish such crap into existence.
Part of the whole problema that is Rosa is that I am much too hard on myself. I am sharper and meaner with myself than my worst critic could ever be. This is why I am saying three daily loving-kindness meditations, why I am doing one kind thing for a stranger every day, for a loved one every day, and (am supposed to be doing) one for myself. Every day. It was a therapy assignment. I am most stellar at saying my loving-kindness meditations, as I always have been, because I can so fully feel the community and the connectedness in my heart when I do. Unlike I am able to at any other time. Amazing. It is easy to do one kind thing for a stranger and a loved one every day. I think I was probably doing that before, just not as mindfully or with such intent.
And the third therapy assignment is the topic of my next blog post: How do I start being nice to myself? It’s the next blog post because this one’s already getting a bit long, and also because I will have to do some deep introspection. I’m not really that good at being kind to myself, but I’m all about growing together.