For everyone’s information, Rosa is working very hard at getting her shit straight, at “bucking up,” if you will. The problem, when you are also dealing with a mental illness, in addition to serious life stress — it may just not be so simple.
When Rosa stays at home all day, relaxing, chatting with friends on the Internet, reading blogs, reading on the Kindle, playing with the Kizzer dog, this is how she recharges. Because people. Well, people. What can I say, being around people, it just drains the life right out of me.
The most current issue of the “just buck up” phrase comes from the fact that Rosa and her bipolarity have driven away oh-so-many people, and she finds herself with only a very few close friends and family members that she can rely on. This means that, out of four people, there might not be someone to call at midnight, or five in the morning, or what have you. With more resources, it might be easier. I’d like to think it would be.
I have a stepsister and a best friend from grade school. Both live close, both have kids and husbands. In the past, they would always make time for me, but I guess I have worn them out. The ups and downs of bipolar disorder, the cancelling meetings, the crying on the phone, my insistent attempts to get them to talk to me, perhaps me just seeming too desperate. It is clear they have given up on me. No, it’s really not in my head. Other people see it too.
And there’s the question of my stepmom, who should love and care for me, at least in some small way, for the simple fact that she loves my dad. Well, this is not the case. She let it slip a couple weeks ago that she is “completely unsympathetic to the mentally ill.” What the FUCK would give you an idea to say that to me of all people. She complained about people getting hospitalized, of which I actually have twice and have thought about even more. She had nothing good to say about a person with a mental illness — not even me.
And it occured to me — this woman does not love me, she does not respect me, and in fact she sees me as a burden on my father’s time. She has actually said those words — burden on my father’s time. No doubt that she can go up once a week to see my sister and spend 12 hours up there, or spend money and time on her daughter. I am that red-headed step-child that no one wants around. Save for Dad.
So after much introspection, I am left mainly with anger. Anger for these people abandoning me in my life, when I could have used them most. My dad came by last night and I cursed and yelled and cried and, while I think it was overwhelming for him, I think he needed to hear it.
He cried, because, well, this shit is sad. The people I thought I could depend on are not there, and the list of people that I CAN depend on shrinks by the moment. On my part, there will be no more contacting these people. They have my number, my email, my web address, my home address. They can figure out how to find me.
So here I am, at the end of the day, and I am done.done.done. with a large group of people. I am not going to subject myself to heartache anymore, just as I suppose they wouldn’t themselves.